Have you ever laid in bed next to a partner & felt completely ALONE?
Do you privately ask yourself, "What is wrong with me? Why doesn't my life feel good enough?"
Do you privately ask yourself, "What is wrong with me? Why doesn't my life feel good enough?"
Over two decades I laid next to a very well intended man who loved me the best he knew how. He didn’t beat me. He didn’t cheat on me. He wasn’t a narcissist.
By all accounts a “good” man.
Yet, I would lay in bed feeling completely
No one to truly hold my emotions. I had to be tough. I stood in my own gap emotionally. Carrying the weight of the financial and family challenges as they arose.
All the patterns we developed early on - innocently taking on roles slowly disintegrated intimacy.
He knew I was a capable woman and I liked being one. So, he gave me the space to be her. I loved it at first, only as years wore on, resentment began to fester. Why do I always have to be the one? BECAUSE - I asked for it.
One of three things often happen in a marriage with highly capable women who run the show everywhere they go.
1. You attract an unhealthy or incapable man who wants to take the back seat in life.
2. You fight a lot with the one you have and although you may ‘win’, you lose because men were built to fight. Men walk off the battlefield and leave it behind or protect by changing behavior. Whereas women carry the battle in their bodies.
3. You loose the attraction to a man who has become a pleaser. He gives you everything but you are repelled by the feminine energy he’s giving off.
I found myself in this mess so I put on a mask. I stuffed my truth deep inside so I wouldn’t upset him. I kept saying to myself, “Just keep the peace. Keep the peace.”
Ever been here?
In moments, I would muster the courage to ask my husband to seek counsel and he would respond,
“I’m fine. Something is wrong with you. People who go to counseling get divorced. I'm perfectly happy. You are the one that needs help.”
Where do you go from here? Remember, you are with you - no matter where you go - so start with YOURSELF. The gift of him saying that to me was the gift that forced me to look within myself to find out how I was contributing to the frustration and loneliness that I was experiencing.
Here is where many years of deep work began. In my program, I incorporate the collection of modalities that were acquired through 900 hours expanding in workshops, reading books, listening to podcasts, and seeking therapy. I have invested over $180,000 financially to become the SHE-ness I embody today and I put it all together so you can walk the path and gain clarity in the fraction of the time and expense with someone who not only worked the modalities but lived the experience.
This is not a promise to save a marriage or help you find the man you have been aching for. Rather something better and more everlasting. To find yourself fully and wholly - stripped of all the 'shoulds' and 'musts' and childhood imprinting to make the healthiest decisions from this space and create the new magnetism within ever fiber of your being to give yourself the best opportunity to live the life your soul knows is meant for you.
Welcome Sister. I've been preparing for you.
Here you'll always have a safe space to EXPLORE the unique-ness of you by knowing:
1. We suspend all judgment of ourselves & others
2. We have unconditional love for all people
3. What is said here, remains here.
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"Roya helped me through a tremendous breakthrough. She opened my eyes to a fruitful future by healing the child within. I stepped out of my debilitating introversion and sleep challenges to social confidence and full night’s sleep. I recommend her services to anyone that is ready to make a potent and lasting change."
"If you are looking for clarity and confidence to pursue your goals, Roya is a great coach. Within an hour of working together, she made some very astute observations that helped me reframe my skills and move beyond my limiting beliefs."
You are a woman who longs to be a creative force in the world.
You also long to live a vibrant life that aligns with who you authentically are.
Every day, the world asks more of you, and you ask more of yourself
because you’re a high-achieving woman with high standards.
You're spinning about how to save your marriage, going through a divorce, or on the other side of one and you don’t want any area of your life—emotional, physical, spiritual or financial—alluding you and you’re willing to dig deep and do the work. Willing to dedicate the best of yourself to living your greatest life in public and private.
In the She-ness Tribe, we UPGRADE together!
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The Energy magnet course was great! I find myself chewing my food more without consciously thinking about it. lol I have always related to music on an emotional level. Now that I know and understand the benefits of this, I find myself dancing more. Most importantly to me, were the affirmation work arounds to overcome and bypass the subconscious mind. I was never able to consistently say affirmations to myself daily. I found my mind screaming "THIS IS ALL BS!!". However, with the "I am grateful now that..." and "I am even more..." phrases put on my affirmation statements, I have been consistently and successfully stating my affirmations daily; sometimes 2-3 times a day. If you struggle with your energy levels in any way at all, I highly recommend this course.
Cheers - Sally K
"You know that moment when you realize that you’re exactly where you’re supposed to be? I am so glad for all my past and for all my learning experiences. For all those moments where I was alone in the valley of darkness learning from my stubbornness. In the moments of self-doubt, struggles, fearfulness of approval, the sense of belonging and the total release of power…is when you hear THE voice!! The one that tells you the right from wrong. The one that tells you what direction to face. This is the moment I’ve been waiting for. For the past few months, I’ve been doubting all the good I’ve been doing, the willpower to keep going and continuing with my career… I am excited for all of the positive sister sales directors I have to lean on when I am weak and can’t see the success. Roya Mattis, you are one amazing woman whose passion is so strong that it can carry the army through the dark. Your work ethic, wisdom, suggestions, strategic planning, enthusiasm, kindness, success, training and love for everyone around you is so clear that when I can’t see, I trust you to see for me!! Sisters for life!!!"
SHE-ness IS A MOVEMENT of honoring your unique 'SHE' and a COMMUNITY that supports you.
Silent suffering is hidden within more women than you realize. In a world of posturing and pretense, we no longer know what is real and what is fabricated. Haven't you ever witnessed the 'perfect couple' at a gathering one day, only to discover they are getting a divorce the next? That is a prime example of silent suffering.
I will not save your marriage or find you a man. I will guide you and help you find clarity and start you on a track to consistently uncover and discover how YOU are contributing to your own discontent so that you can end it.
In SHE-ness, we have created a space where your needs are yours to own. You know when your heart is happy and when it's amiss. You don't have to justify yourself here. You get to freely explore those feelings and have guidance to help you uncover the root cause of your spinning thoughts. Maybe, what is true for you is that you hurry your emotions because it’s just too painful to think about the changes that might be necessary and down right scary.
When you decide you're done with "doing" and you choose your "being"; the hunt for another is replaced by the hunt for yourself; the truth of who you've always agreed to be, no longer defines who you're becoming, it is then, you're liberated to create the life of your dreams!
You understand that change starts with SELF. You will have you no matter where you go. We inspect the uncommon to have the extraordinary. YOU will UP LEVEL physically, energetically and emotionally (and yes, finances seen to follow). You will nurture your own unique 'SHE' that is deeply authentic to YOU and learn the skills of how to attract more of what you want and kindly release what you don't.
We are a community that supports that actualization, while being inclusive of all types of women.
You are committed to being vibrant, confident, turned on, and rich in every area of your life!
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"In deciding to work with Roya I was looking for a change in behavior, but what I found is a much deeper focus on the most permanent type of change, MY IDENTITY, which once understood and reworked with Roya’s expert care, unlocks the mindset to go and win everyday. Eternally grateful."
'Roya is a sovereign warrior that practices “no soul left behind” from unleashing ourselves to maximum health and passion. Within an hour of meeting, Roya opened a black box that was hurting my soul and holding me back, and then she gracefully released it into the ocean. That happened because of Roya’s call to give when she sees pain in people who are struggling to be their best. Roya isn’t rehearsed, although trained, and she pulls from her heart and natural talents. This woman is trustworthy and genuinely gifted." ~Christie J
I met Roya at a professional development seminar and she was full of bright light and juicy fun. During breaks we danced and hugged. I saw her a few months later at a follow on training event and watched the way she carried herself. She owns the ground she walks on.
I’m a skinny thang and I longed to feel like a curvey, sexy woman who also commands respect. I was on a mission to discover the divine feminine within me which was a completely separate goal from the training we were attending. So, I asked Roya to help me.
In 15 minutes Roya showed me more than my friends or books ever could. She knew just what I needed to hear to feel better about what I had to work with. Then she walked me through some activities to practice moving my body in a new and feminine way that felt great.
We bonded quickly over the universal experience of modern day women. Roya and I shared deeply and joyfully which, brought to me, a sense of healing from our sisterhood.
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